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8 Sexual Curiosities From Ancient Greece

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 15:15:11 -0400

8 Sexual Curiosities From Ancient Greece:

Sex hasn’t changed much; we are still on that same quest, and many of the sexual attitudes from two and a half thousand years ago are still around today — but there are also some radical differences.

Just posting this hilarious, snarky, slightly NSFW slideshow that one of my authors put together. He’s amazing. Buy the book.

Somedays I feel qualified to do just about anything and then other days I feel like I am qualified...

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 11:12:02 -0400

Somedays I feel qualified to do just about anything and then other days I feel like I am qualified for just about nothing, at work or otherwise.

audreylostinparis: Salvador Dalí and Yves Saint Laurent

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 08:52:24 -0400

audreylostinparis:

Salvador Dalí and Yves Saint Laurent

harrycrowder: Us boys wearing Burberry at @burberry S/S14 today...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 15:20:59 -0400

harrycrowder:

Us boys wearing Burberry at @burberry S/S14 today @jacksgap @finnharries #burberry

CLAIRE. THE TWINS. ugh they’re unreal.

nprmusic: Los Angeles producer TOKiMONSTA has toured with...

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 11:31:09 -0400

nprmusic:

Los Angeles producer TOKiMONSTA has toured with Skrillex and Diplo and collaborated with Flying Lotus. She recently brought an assortment of gear to KCRW’s Morning Becomes Eclectic studio for a live performance of her song “Go With It,” with guest vocalist and labelmate MNDR.

killin’ it!

alaskanbear: mmmm gotta love Issac <3

Tue, 18 Jun 2013 08:39:25 -0400

alaskanbear:

mmmm gotta love Issac

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Frantic, loud, weird, and still somehow super melodic:...

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 12:06:00 -0400

Frantic, loud, weird, and still somehow super melodic: It’s everything I love about Animal Collective, so how did I miss the fact that this album existed??

flavorpill: Documentaries aren’t exactly known for their...

Fri, 14 Jun 2013 11:29:50 -0400

flavorpill:

Documentaries aren’t exactly known for their riveting suspense, but Salinger, screenwriter Shane Salerno’s eight-years-in-the-making account of the reclusive Catcher in the Rye author, isn’t shaping up to be a typical documentary.

Watch the Trailer for ‘Salinger’

???

Are they trying to make Salinger’s life into a thriller? And what is with the Hans Zimmer-esque soundtrack?

Things I haven't said before, but probably should have

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 22:56:00 -0400

Personal rant below the break, courtesy of my 2012 self. I.e: things that still hurt and are still relevant, and that are actually pretty cathartic to yell out into cyberspace.

I used to believe that since I hadn’t suffered, and since I was happy, that happiness simply didn’t require suffering.

There’s a stigma surrounding unhappiness and suffering, like we’re all competing to see who was really that unhappy, who suffered more. Maybe I still haven’t really suffered. I’ve never felt suicidal, I’ve never felt hopeless, I’ve never felt like my life wasn’t worth it. I’ve had a good life, a spoiled life, and I’ve been told that bad things just don’t happen to me. And on a material level, they don’t, so why would I ever admit unhappiness?

But I have felt a relentless anxiety, the kind that consumes every single move you make. Every moment you’re awake you’re plagued by irrationality: Was that chicken cooked? Am I allergic to that? Am I pregnant? Will those Christmas lights catch the house on fire? Of course they will I have to turn them off no I won’t they won’t do anything no I think I will just in case. Why does my stomach hurt? I must be hungry or maybe I’m sick but just in case I should eat no if I’m sick I can’t eat or god, I must be pregnant no I can’t be that’s just not possible I haven’t gotten laid in nearly three weeks and I know I had my period.

The worst part is that I knew I was being irrational. I knew that I was borderline insane and desperately unhappy and losing too much weight and I couldn’t do a damn thing about it because the anxiety was eating me up and taking away all of my energy. At the end of the day all I could do was cry, but even that wasn’t helpful because I didn’t want to admit that I knew what I was crying about. At one, very, very low point I got out of bed, and was so goddamn tired and weak from not eating that I couldn’t even make it to the shower. I lay away the rest of the day curled up under the sheets, not even having the strength to cry anymore.

So maybe I don’t really know suffering, but I know something about unhappiness. Maybe I wasn’t clinically depressed, maybe I never took medication, maybe I never thought, “the world isn’t a beautiful place,” but I sure as hell was unhappy. I suffered.

The thing about happiness is that it isn’t something that just happens upon you one sunny day. It takes a lot of fucking work. And I never realized that. Of course when you stop and think about it, it makes sense. “Of course happiness doesn’t just happen,” you say. Yes, well. Do you know how it happens?

No, of course not. And neither do I, for that matter, and I doubt you know anyone who does. If you want to be really honest, none of us are ever really happy in the sense that we are free from all unhappiness. There will always be heartbreak, there will always be loss, there will always be despair and hopelessness and frustration and anger. But those are the emotions that make life beautiful. When you’re swallowed whole by suffering the way I was swallowed whole by anxiety, you don’t have any room in your diseased thoughts to think, “This is beautiful in it’s own twisted way.” But after you start to recover, when you can admit to yourself that you are really, really, really unhappy, you can start to notice how beautiful suffering is.

That step meant therapy for me. It meant heartbreak. It meant almost a year of recovery that was dubbed “Slut-a-thon 2011” and involved a lot of protein drinks. Strangely, it was along that road that I began to see how wonderful suffering can be.

How else can we look at it? As a curse from a negligent god who set the world in motion and then abandoned his creation to evil? As a sign that we are incompetent and immoral human beings destined for hell? No. Suffering is wonderful because “it dwells with beauty.” Without suffering we would not be complete human beings. We would not understand others. More importantly, we would never understand ourselves.

If art has taught me anything it’s that self-expression, self-exploration, and self-understanding are the most important parts of life. If we don’t dig deep within our suffering, if we don’t face our heartbreak dead on, we will never achieve any kind of self-understanding. Without that, how can we be expected to live a full life? It would be a blind life, surely. I don’t want to be blind. I want to see my own suffering, I don’t want it to be hidden away in some dark corner of my heart where it will rot away and spread, diseased, through my whole body. I want to face it, understand it, and I don’t want to eradicate it; I want to force it to be a part of myself, the part that leaves me a better human being in the end.

What did my anxiety leave me? It left me with the knowledge that I am all too capable of denial, that I was wrong to believe that I knew what love was, that my fears manifest themselves in hypochondria and a blisteringly severe self-consciousness. It taught me that I had no fucking idea how to be happy.

And that was the greatest realization, because it forced me to start trying to be happy. Happiness takes work, I realized. A hell of a lot of work. I have to try, try, try and keep on trying to stay happy, because if I fall into a slump for even a moment I feel the anxiety creeping up behind me. I’ll never be able to let up fighting off my fears and doubts and worries, but at least I’m facing them, now.

gq: Kate Upton, June 2010 STOP YOU ARENT REAL YOU CANT BE

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:23:09 -0400

gq:

Kate Upton, June 2010

STOP YOU ARENT REAL YOU CANT BE

sendhils: [70’s porn music starts playing]

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:22:13 -0400

sendhils:

[70’s porn music starts playing]

Is Forced Fatherhood Fair?

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 17:11:00 -0400

Is Forced Fatherhood Fair?:

“In cases of accidental pregnancy, men now arguably have less reproductive autonomy than women.”

You’ll probably get mad reading this article. Just saying.

Choice quote: “In consenting to sex, neither a man nor a woman gives consent to become a parent.”

Ignoring the fact that this article ignores those “accidental” pregnancies resulting from rape, which require that women should and must be given more “choices” when it comes to unplanned pregnancies, when consenting to un-protected sex, both men and women are basically ensuring that you’ll become parents, whether you like it or not.

If a man doesn’t want to bear the responsibility of being a father, then I personally wouldn’t want him in my life at all, but it does cost money to raise a child. If a father decides he doesn’t want to pay for a child, is the mother just supposed to bear the financial burden or let a man “urge her to seek an abortion” ? How is that better for a child? Just the phrase “urge her to seek an abortion” makes me extremely uncomfortable.

Bottom line, we need better sex ed and access to male and female contraception to avoid ALL of these problems.

sherlocks-one-friend: thilbokingunderthehobbit: hatver: Ideal...

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 13:53:55 -0400

sherlocks-one-friend:

thilbokingunderthehobbit:

hatver:

Ideal & Reality

The one is majestic Thranduil and the other is Randy Thrandy Party Queen had too much wine

i don’t know which I like better

gingerhaze: ohnymeria: Evangeline, Orlando and Lee watching...

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 13:18:58 -0400

gingerhaze:

ohnymeria:

Evangeline, Orlando and Lee watching fans reacting to the DoS Trailer. (x)

OH MY GOD THEY’RE ALL SO CUTE

LEE I LOVE YOU

THEY ARE CALLED THE ‘LITTLE CATTLE DOGS OF THE...

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 11:20:51 -0400

THEY ARE CALLED THE ‘LITTLE CATTLE DOGS OF THE VIKINGS.’

What more do you need to know!??

Classy W&M event at the Morgan library… Aka free wine....

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 20:42:32 -0400

Classy W&M event at the Morgan library… Aka free wine. @bobeezlertron

bohemea: Ben Whishaw, Christoph Waltz & Ezra Miller for...

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 17:20:49 -0400

bohemea:

Ben Whishaw, Christoph Waltz & Ezra Miller for Prada Menswear Fall/Winter 2013-14 by David Sims

GLORIOUS!

NOOO WHAT THIS IS INCREDIBLE